Dr. Date Romantic - Advice - SimpleRomance.com

"I was wondering if you have any advice on how to tell if a person is truly compatible to someone else. I really want to make my relationship to work but have grave concerns." - Linda, Canada

Focus on the person rather than the relationship and you may find your answer in not time. Compatibility is much like a coloring book. As long as you're both working on the same page, using different colors to fill in the picture will create a more dynamic and exciting composition.

Being compatible is not only about finding a common ground, but also about becoming the person you want to be by balancing each other. Note though that while balancing each other is important, a couple that is too different may create some great sparks in the beginning of the relationship, but these will eventually diminish.

Regarding your relationship, try to analyze what it is that you don't like about yourself, him and the relationship before getting too involved in a relationship that does not make you a better person.

"There is this guy that I really like and he knows that I like him. For some reason he just stopped talking to me and now he just walks away from me. I can't stop thinking about him. What should I do?"
- Armina, Virginia

One way love and lust is very common. Some people might say that it sounds romantic, but the problem with this situation is that it can quickly turn into an obsession. Most people are programmed to want what they cannot have. So by simply being denied someone's affection, they form feelings of attachment. This can turn into obsession if left uncontrolled.

Another problem with love not being returned is that it can become more of a challenge than a real emotion. Being rejected can steal someone's ego and this person may try to proved that she is worthy of love. Seeking to win love that was denied can become almost like a game and real love is never about playing games.

So assess this situation carefully and put your feelings to the test. It sounds like an obsession game so you should probably try your hardest to put the guy out of your head and move on to find someone who really deserves your affection.