"I really and truly liked this guy that works at a pub. He had built my hopes up that we would be together because he is in a very unhappy relationship. He kept giving me signals but I have found out by a friend that he's not interested. I treated him well and he threw it all away. How can a man do this? Why couldn't he say he wanted us to be just friends and not send me the mixed signals? He was the best thing in my life and I had no warning of him turning me down."                  - Jennie, Nebraska

It is almost impossible to start a new and lasting relationship with someone who is already involved with another. The situation is always too complicated and there are just too many obstacles to overcome. You have to remember that it takes two to make a relationship and the love or infatuation of one cannot ever be enough to make the relationship work.

Even if he did leave his partner for you, there are still a multitude of obstacles. Such as the feeling that he might leave you for another just like he did in the past. There are also rebound issues, like his continued affection towards his past partner. Do you really want him to be with you while he is thinking about another. This is the standard transfer of affection associated with all rebounds.

My advise  to you is to just move on. You will find someone who is not in a current relationship that has all the great characteristics of this guy but without all the emotional baggage.

"I'm meeting my boyfriend's best friend next week for the first time. I want to give a good impression so is there anything that I should or shouldn't do went I meet him?"                                    - Jennifer, California

When meeting your romantic interest friends for the first time there are certainly several things that you never want to do. Don't drink to much because you may loose control. Don't reveal secrets about your sex life. Never be a show off about your job or your money. Do not flirt with them or talk about yourself too much. Never try to dig up dirt about your date from their friends or flaunt your relationship in their face. And never, ever criticize your date in front of them. If you follow these simple first time meeting don'ts, you'll make a wonderful impression!

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